Something wicked stirring in my mind

Today started SO innocently. I was on okcupid, aim, imvu, and otakubooty chatting away. Nothing really bad there. I usually do that most times.
The thing is that, I usually don't get such strange IM's.
I won't state his name as that I am being a nice dictator...
but I will say what the gist of the convo was:

him: my friend and me made a bet about me wearing women's shoes. she brought a bag filled with pink panties, stockings, garters, and shoes.

me: well tell me about how you feel. Does it scare you that it makes you feel good?

I don't know what happened, but as soon as I started asking him about how he felt in the panties, the hose and such..something came over me. I was feeling like I was poking and prodding(in a good way) in his mind. I knew it was humilating, but I wanted to just see..to just know... if I could get in his head and make him admit that he liked being dressed that way. That and I wished I was there to see how he looked, and to totally make him feel like a woman. Complete with strapon. I wanted to make the little shit into the most femme thing I can think of.

My friend Erik was there online with me during the whole time as I explained to him the sitch. His response was "I guess there is a Dominant streak in your after all". Of course all said with a smirk. The bastard knew! LoL.

And here I am at a quandry. I loved the feelings I had..and wouldn't mind doing it in RL. I just fear what would happen if anyone close to me were to find out. We all know I live in backwards alley.